Tonight I heard someone say the funniest thing. Taylor and I met up with Erica and her sister Jackie at the bar we always go to by my house. We were just there to have a couple drinks and kill an hour of the night instead of sitting at home all night like we usually do.

So Jackie is a talker. By that, I mean she never shuts up. She will go on and on for hours about anything, changing subjects on the fly, and inevitably losing her listeners because of how disorganized her thoughts are, but thats a whole other story. What really caught my attention was something I have seen many times before, but never really thought about how ridiculous it sounded until tonight.

Jackie was talking about an ex-boyfriend of hers whose name I can't remember. We'll call him John, for clarity's sake. So John broke up with Jackie like...3 years ago, I think, and started dating a friend of hers named Catherine. Jackie was pissed, but mostly she was jealous. What she did out of that jealousy is what I never before realized was so weird...

She changed her appearance - dying her hair, cutting her hair, changing the makeup she wears, clothes she wears, etc. - to look more like Catherine so maybe John would be re-interested in her.

Her logic was that, physically, Catherine was what John wanted, so if she physically looked like Catherine, John would want her.

Her theory was based completely on appearance. For a moment, I actually nodded my head and was thinking, "Not a bad idea." Then, I mentally slapped myself in the face and told myself to think about what this girl is saying. She is basing her whole idea of the thought that people only have looks/appearance in mind when selecting a boyfriend or girlfriend.

What happened to personality?

I have seen this so many times before, and I'm starting to wonder why I never realized these people weren't considering that THEY ARE NOT THE SAME AS THE PERSON THEY ARE TRYING TO BE LIKE. You can look like them all you want, but you will never be them. We are all different people, and if John didn't want to be with Jackie anymore, obviously it wasn't because of her looks since they dated for 2 or 3 years, it was because he thought Catherine was a better person on the inside.

Personality needs to be important to everyone. I mean that in two ways. 1) Personality needs to be something you look for when dating, and 2) Try to make sure you have a good personality, because looks aren't the only thing you have that makes you attractive.

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